For the record, I secretly loathe wives who dote on their husband's every act of matrimonial duty. It is one thing to appreciate his grilling prowess or his dedication as a patriarch and family breadwinner. I think it's good to let people know you appreciate your spouse. I love that, but please don't make EVERY public waking moment a status update shrine in his honor. It feels insincere. That said, I am now going to now annoy myself and the rest of you by publicly appreciating my marriage.
Last November, my husband and I celebrated our 13th anniversary. Lucky number 13, right? Ha! If there is any such thing as an ideal marriage, then Cinderella and Princess Aurora can officially take that title and suck it. Real marriage is not easy, but the things in life that are worth it never are. Have you ever met a good parent who said, "Oh, motherhood? That sh** is a piece of cake!" or a nobel prize winner who said, "Well, it wasn't really that much work. It was in my inbox when I woke up at 2 pm...."? No, you've never heard that. I'm just happy to say that neither of us has never made a mistake in our marriage. We've never disrespected one another, certainly never *gasp* disagreed. Fought? Not us. I'm not a very good liar, am I? My husband says the same thing, trust me. The truth is, we've been ugly and terrible to each other. Habitually? No. On purpose. Never. Did we ever want to walk away? Sure. Were we justified? We've both been justified in that.
But at the end of the day, it turns out that we are really good for each other. He drives me to be more, accomplish more, and I drive him to the same end. Could have I achieved a great live without him? Of course. But together, we live more life than either of us could achieve on our own, and isn't that the point of a union? I need someone in my life who can match my intensity even if they do it on their own terms. So I am bragging on my husband. Thank you for matching me, for pushing me, for making my life bigger, fuller. We are a good match, and I love you.
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